Key facts
| Burial or cremation | Either is accepted |
|---|---|
| Service | Readings, prayers, psalms or hymns and a tribute, led by a minister |
| Scottish tradition | Cord cards invite up to eight people to hold the cords that lower the coffin |
| Registration | In Scotland a death must be registered within 8 days |
Presbyterian funeral traditions
The Church of Scotland, the Free Church of Scotland, the Presbyterian Church in Ireland and the United Reformed Church share a simple, scripture-focused approach. Services often include metrical psalms such as Psalm 23 (“The Lord’s my shepherd”) and prayers of thanksgiving for the person’s life.
At a Scottish burial, the family traditionally gives out cord cards naming the people who will hold the cords to lower the coffin — an honour usually given to close relatives and friends.
Every family and community is different. Use this as a starting point, follow the wishes of the person who died, and ask their faith leader or community for guidance.
Finding a church for the funeral
If the person didn’t have a regular church, the funeral director can suggest one, or you can find a Church of Scotland church near you. Many ministers will lead a funeral for someone who lived in their parish or area, even if they rarely attended.
Etiquette for guests
What to wear
Dark, smart clothing is customary; some families request tartan or colours.
What to say
“Sorry for your loss.”
Flowers and gifts
Often family flowers only, with donations to a named charity.